If you think that comic book superheroes are the only ones that have superpowers, think again. When you realize that you are the right person, at the right place, at the right time, created with gifts and powers that are unique in all the world, you know you are nothing short of a superhero. There is no other being in creation, alive today, that matches you and your specific talents. And no matter how hard you try to avoid it or deny it, you have a unique gift that the world is waiting for. How you are currently living may not seem like you are in superhero territory. And you may not feel like you are using superpowers, but they exist – maybe untapped, maybe repressed, maybe denied by your inability to embrace, and unleash them, but superpowers they are. That is the problem with superpowers — you need to discover them, exercise them, build them up and find the right places to use them so they can flourish. Most successful superheroes have a coach or a mentor that gets them into the “gym” and puts them on a regimen to build up their self-esteem and superpower muscles. I recommend you ask for and get help, otherwise discovering your superpowers will take much longer than it needs to, and you may become frustrated and fall back into bad habits or let inertia take over.
Start with Desire How do you get started? First, with desire. You must want it more than anything else. The pain of staying the same must be greater than the pain of facing your fears, uncertainty, and doubt that will be required to unleash your own superpowers. You know that starting a workout routine can be painful, but no pain, no gain. The same is true of our superpower workout. You will need to challenge some of your limiting beliefs and rewire or change some behaviors to ones that support you instead of tearing you down. But the effort will be rewarded mightily. Then, Smash the Kryptonite If you really are a superhero, why do you feel you are living in a cave filled with Kryptonite? Examples of Kryptonite are: feelings weighed down by fear, uncertainty, and doubt; judgments about the past; and missed expectations. The good news is that the Kryptonite is self-inflicted and within our control to remove. Making the decision to stop focusing on these energy killers and switching to establishing superhero goals will minimize the impact of negative activities. Just like Superman, you need to focus. When he leaped tall buildings in a single bound, he certainly was focused and had no fears. So, determine what you want out of your life and set goals. That will crush some of the Kryptonite. But to get rid of it all, you will also need to fight bad habits of complaining, blaming, and lamenting how little energy or creativity you have. Our mind is wonderful because it is a success-seeking machine that has phenomenal auto-correct capabilities. Instead of seeing past failures as negatives, view them as steps taken to get closer to your goal. Failures provide valuable feedback, and you will autocorrect going forward. We can use each experience, good or bad, to inform our goal-seeking machine, and help stay on track. The sooner we take our focus off what we don’t want in our life and replace with a clear and targeted goal that is worthwhile, the sooner we can become who we were meant to be.
One Secret for Finding Your Superpowers I want to let you in on a secret that will be a game-changer if you apply it. While you are waiting to decide on whether a coach is for you, find a substitute teacher – a 4-legged friend. Think about a significant pet that shared your life. Those of us lucky enough to have had a close relationship with animals know that they have a unique superpower, something remarkably simple – unconditional love. And that is something everyone has available and at their command. Deciding to focus on the love in what you do gets you out of your own way and closer to your life goal faster than a speeding bullet.
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